Yesterday I had a conversation with friends about pleasure and tantra, and thought it is worth sharing here It is so funny how most want different results, but most are not willing to step out of their comfort zone let alone open their mind When it comes to sexuality, most people are very disconnected from their bodies. They treat the body as a mode of transport for their head (thinking ego), and everything happens in the mind. And not in the body. Their definition of pleasure is having an orgasm, and arousal usually happens the same way. The only way to experience more pleasure, is to let go of the need to control, to have an agenda and a goal. When you keep doing what you always have done, you are going to keep getting what you always get. Albert Einstein's famous quote goes: "“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” think about that for a moment. How can you expect different results when you are not willing to try something new? Did you just hear the light switch go off?! I know that connecting with the body and feelings can sound scary to some, especially for those who have no idea what that looks like. But one thing I know for sure; it is the only way to having a fulfilling, pleasurable relationship with self and another. It is next level of pleasure. Everything changes for the better in the life of those I've come across who decided to step away from their comfort zone. Myself included. When it comes to pleasure, OMG! Words don't do justice to the orgasmic feelings I experience on a regular basis. Because this is not something the mind can comprehend. The mind only understands past experiences. If it can't relate to it, then it can't understand it and it gets confused. Because the mind wants control. Unfortunately in order to experience more pleasure, you have to let go of control !