13 things as a reminder when life gets hard
We’ve all gone through hard times. And we all get through them. However, some get through them better than others. So what is their secret? Most of it has to do with attitude. Here are 13 things to remember when life gets rough. 1. What is, is. Buddha's famous saying tells us: "It is your resistance to 'what is' that causes your suffering." Think about that for a minute. It means that our suffering only occurs when we resist how things are. If you can change something, then take action! Change it! But if you can’t change it, then you have two choices: (1) either accept it and let go of the negativity, or (2) make yourself miserable by obsessing over it. 2. It's only a problem if you think it's a problem. Many times, we are our own worst enemy. Happiness is really dependent on perspective. If you think something is a problem, then your thoughts and emotions will be negative. But if you think it’s something you can learn from, then suddenly, it’s not a problem anymore. 3. If you want things to change, you need to start with changing yourself. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Don’t you know people whose lives are chaotic and stressful? And isn’t that largely because they feel chaotic inside? Yes, it is. We like to think that changing our circumstances will change us. But we have it backwards—we need to change ourselves first before our circumstances will change. 4. There is no such thing as failure -- only learning opportunities. You should just wipe the word "failure" right out of your vocabulary. All great people who have ever achieved anything have "failed" over and over. In fact, I think it was Thomas Edison who said something like, "I did not fail at inventing the light bulb, I just first found 99 ways that it didn’t work." Take your so-called "failures" and learn something from them. Learn how to do it better next time. 5. If you don’t get something you want, it just means something better is coming. That's hard to believe sometimes. But it's true. Usually, when you look back at your life, you will be able to see why it was actually a good thing that something didn't work out. Maybe the job you didn't get would have made you spend more time away from your family, but the job you did get was more flexible. Just have faith that everything happens exactly the way it's supposed to. 6. Appreciate the present moment. This moment will never come again. And there is always something precious about every moment. So don’t let it pass you by! Soon it will just be a memory. Even moments that don't seem happy can be looked upon as something that you might miss someday. As the country song by Trace Adkins says, "You’re gonna miss this... you’re gonna want this back. You're gonna wish these days hadn’t gone by so fast...you may not know this now, but you're gonna miss this..." 7. Let go of desire. Most people live with "attached mind." What this means is that they attach themselves to a desire, and when they don’t get it, their emotions plummet into negativity. Instead, try to practice "detached mind." That means that when you want something, you will still be happy whether you get it or not. Your emotions remain happy or neutral. 8. Understand and be grateful for your fears. Fear can be a great teacher. And overcoming fears can also make you feel victorious. Overcoming fears just takes practice. Fear is really just an illusion. It's optional. 9. Allow yourself to experience joy. Believe it or not, too many people who don't allow themselves to have fun. And they don’t even know how to be happy. Some people are actually addicted to their problems and the chaos in them so much that they wouldn't even know who they are without them. So try to allow yourself to be happy! Even if it's just for a small moment, it's important to focus on joy, not your hardships. 10. Don’t compare yourself to other people. But if you do compare yourself, compare yourself with people who have it worse than you. Unemployed? Be grateful that you live in a country that gives unemployment compensation, because most people in the world live on less that $750 a year. So you don't look like Angelina Jolie? Well, you can bet there are more people who don't than do. And you are probably way better looking than most people. Focus on that. 11. You are not a victim. You need to get out of your own way. You are only a "victim" of your own thoughts, words and actions. No one "does" something to you. You are the creator of your own experience. Take personal responsibility and realize that you can get out of your hard times. You just need to start with changing your thoughts and actions. Abandon your victim mentality and become victorious. From victim to VICTOR! 12. Things can -- and do -- change. "And this too shall pass" is a favorite sayings. When we are stuck in a bad situation, we think that there is no way out. We think nothing will ever change. But guess what? It will! Nothing is permanent except death. So get out of the habit of thinking that things will always be this way. They won't. But you do need to take some sort of action for things to change. It won't magically happen all on its own. 13. Anything is possible. Miracles happen every day. Really — they do. It happens all the time. You just need to believe it does. Once you do, you have won the battle. Blessings
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